How to Overcome Perfectionist Procrastination [ELR: 004]

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Weekly affirmation: "I will hold myself to a standard of grace, not perfection." -Emily Ley

 

What is perfectionist procrastination?

Perfectionist procrastination is the idea of avoiding or delaying something because you want it to be perfect. I did this A LOT in school when I had a big assignment or paper due. I would want it to be "perfect" so I would delay finishing it or turning it in because I wanted to review it again or do some more research.

And then I realized this habit seeped into my adult life, especially blogging. Even now, I have an entire folder of "draft" posts that are mostly finished, but I have not hit publish because I want to review them more. I procrastinate in releasing them to the world because I want them to be incredible, amazing, and flawless.

I had to realize that the idea of "perfection" is not attainable. Society inundates us with the idea of being perfect, but that simply isn't realistic. If we, instead, hold ourselves to a standard of grace, instead of perfection, we allow ourselves the freedom to deliver our final product without second guessing ourselves or worrying about our flaws.

Plus, procrastination is nothing more than focusing on your fears instead of focusing on your desires. I know there have been times I fear completing a project because I don't want to be judged on the results, whether it is a failure or a success. 

So how do we overcome perfectionist procrastination?

1. Use positive affirmations to change your mindset

I wake up everyday reminding myself that "I am good enough" and "I have the skills I need to accomplish my goals". These positive affirmations give me to confidence in myself that I need in order to banish the doubt in my head.

2. Set a hard deadline

Give yourself a hard and fast deadline to complete your project or goal, and do not compromise. This will retrain your procrastinating mind to get to work because you want to give your best.

3. Enlist an accountability partner

Find someone you love and trust who may be on the same journey as you to be your accountability partner. Tell them your goals and give them your deadlines so they can keep you honest. They won't take no for an answer when they ask you if you have met your deadlines, so be ready for them to push you!

How do you retrain your brain to overcome perfectionist procrastination?

 

 

Coloring Outside the Lines: Reconditioning our Brains to Be Free [ELR:003]

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Weekly affirmation: My thinking is creative and unique, and I always come up with great ideas.

 

Last weekend, I took my son to a kiddie Paint and Sip. It was adorable! They got to "sip" on apple juice, while getting messy in painting supplies.

The instructor leading the children encouraged each of them to embrace their creativity and let their imagination lead them. And the results were amazing!

It's astounding what children can create when they are lovingly encouraged to expand their imagination, rather than being constantly forced to "color inside the lines".

I know it can be a lot harder for us as adults to find that same comfort in letting loose with our imaginations. But what is stopping us?

Fear. Conditioning. Guilt. Worry.

Each of those negative aspects of our thoughts has stopped us from taking a leap outside of our comfort zone. 

But how do we combat that?

I found an article from Entrepreneur talking about this exact thing: 3 Ways to Think Outside the Box. The article is geared toward businesses, but I find the suggestions can be implemented in all aspects of our lives.

1. Set Parameters

Set a timer for 10 minutes and write or type everything you can think of. Try to get as many thoughts as you can down on paper in that timeframe.

2. Aim for quantity, not quality. Don't edit.

This is the hardest part for me. I want to stop and fix spelling or grammar, but in this particular exercise, try to let your mind just flow with ideas. You can worry about editting later.

3. Change your environment

If you want to experience something new, you can't stay in the same place. Take your laptop or tablet outside, and try the 10 minute exercise in the sunshine. Use your senses as inspiration to think differently about things.

What are your suggestions for ways to think outside the box and color outside the lines?


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3 Incredible Personal Development Books to Get You Motivated [ELR:002]

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Weekly Affirmation: I am in charge of how I feel and today I am choosing happiness.

 

I was asked a few weeks ago to give my top three favorite personal development books, and I didn't know what to say. There are SO MANY amazing books around that narrowing down to three favorites is not an easy task. There are a few books, though, that I can consume over and over again, and I find something different in every reading!

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Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes

Subtitle: How to Dance It Out, Stand in the Sun, and Be Your Own Person

Can I just start by saying I LOVE Shonda and ShondaLAND! I bonded with my college roommate over Grey's Anatomy (when we literally had NOTHING else in common), and I still get excited to see the live tweets of Scandal, even though the show has turned in a direction I didn't expect.

Year of Yes found me at the perfect time in my life. I was working on a big project, and I didn't think I had the skills to complete it, despite being told by many different people that I was more than capable. Shonda told me I needed to step outside my comfort zone and believe in myself. I had to stop saying, "who me?" and shift my mindset to "why not me?"

Shonda tells her story about her "year of yes" in a simple, funny, and motivating way, through real life stories and funny anecdotes. And because she shared her vulnerabilities in this book and embraced the idea of saying yes to the things that scared her, I knew that I could do the same.

Pages: 337

You are a Badass by Jen Sincero

Subtitle: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life

I read You are a Badass right before finding out that the author would be the featured speaker at a conference I was attending. What I loved most about seeing her live was that she took the time to talk to each and every one of us about our ideas and excitement for her book. 

This book was my first introduction to the Law of Attraction, which basically states that what you put out into the world is what you will receive back from it. This book challenged me to make positivity my main goal, so that I can receive the same back from the universe.

Pages: 258

Make Sh*t Happen Series by Kat Loterzo

I'm cheating a little bit because this is a series of six ebooks, and they are only available on Amazon Kindle. BUT! If you have Kindle Unlimited, five of the six books are free to read! And they are all short works, with less than 150 pages, chock-full of no-nonsense advice to motivate you to "make sh*t happen".

How to Journal and Make Sh*t Happen

Subtitle: The Book Every Woman Craving an Exceptional Life Must Own!

I started with How to Journal and Make Sh*t Happen as a way to get focused on my journalling time. This book really helped guide my journal writing and bring my goals into focus.

Pages: 93

What books get you motivated to enhance your skills and mindset?

Please feel free to tune in next week on Sunday at 6pm ET to enRICHED life radio, where we will be talking about coloring outside the lines.

 

5 Fabulous Ways to Love Yourself More This Year [ELR:001]

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Weekly Affirmation: I am enough. I have enough. My gifts will make a way for me. I have all that I need.

 

I just finished the last of my Valentine's Day candy and Girl Scout cookies, and now I am looking in the mirror wondering what is wrong with me.

I notice that sometimes the words in my head are full of negativity and self doubt. And when those negative thoughts become habit, they manifest into body shaming and self-hate. Have you ever had those thoughts and feelings?

Well if you have, I wanted to give us all a few ideas to help us love ourselves and our beautiful bodies even more during this "month of love".

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Here are my 5 ways to love myself more this year:

1. Take time to step away from the noise

My phone and computer are filled with too many ways to get distracted: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Gmail, blah, blah, blah... 

And most days, I can manage my time without being overwhelmed. But lately, the noise has been negative and trivial. Those are the times where unplugging from the technology is key.

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2. Work my goals at my own pace

Along with the general overwhelm of social media, there is also this urge to compare myself with what other people (especially bloggers and small business owners) are doing. 

It's easy to feel like I am not achieving my goals as fast or as frequently as others on my timeline. Or I over-analyse my work after viewing an amazing post or brilliant photo on someone else's feed. I have started consciously reminding myself that I am working at my own pace, and my success will look different from everyone else's.

And for you, if that means unfollowing some people on social media, or limiting your conversations about your goals with your acquaintances or coworkers, do it. Take time to map out your own milestones, and stick to it! 

3. Learn how to say "NO"

We all want to be involved and helpful when someone asks us a favor, or requests our presence at an event. But I found myself burned out and stressed in 2017 because I tried to DO EVERYTHING and BE EVERYWHERE, even when I really didn't want to be there. Why was I doing things that don't make me happy? 

This year, I am learning the art of saying "no" without being rude. I am actively using my planner to balance my work and family. And if there is a conflict when someone asks for a favor, I politely decline so I can put my life, business, and family first. By setting these boundaries, I am not stressed and spread too thin; I can focus on my goals without distractions.

4. Consume personal development material

With all the crazy information we get bombarded with everyday, we have to remember to consume information the same way we consume good foods- we are what we consume.

So I have been getting back into reading personal development books and listening to motivational podcasts. Not only do I get a fresh, uplifting perspective, but I am also strengthening my skills and knowledge in content development. 

I usually combine this with my moments of relaxation-- listening to podcasts while I walk or reading a book while I relax in the tub.

5. Start and end the day with positive words

My new favorite part of my morning routine is sitting at my vanity, staring in the mirror, and repeating my morning affirmations. These words fill me with the power and motivation to glide through the day. I find that  on the days I say my affirmations out loud in the mirror, I have more confidence, I make better decisions, and I feel great about how I look.

Similarly, before I go to bed, I spend a few minutes writing down everything that went well during the day. I give myself credit for my daily accomplishments, which enforces that I am making progress toward my goals.

I find that I am much more loving and accepting of myself after I have done any one of these five things. 

What do you Do to love yourself more?
 

Please feel free to tune in next week on Sunday at 6pm ET to enRICHED life radio, where we will be talking about some of my favorite personal development books!